Unsubscribe to guilt

Readers! I have taken a hiatus. Thank you for your patience. Guess what? I am not guilty for leaving my blog unattended. Guilt is my topic today. The message is: unsubscribe!

I've been looking closely at Chapter 13 in A Course in Miracles, titled, "The Guiltless World." After reading in section 1: "Love and guilt cannot coexist, and to accept one is to deny the other."  I find the message is so simple and so profound. I can not feel love in my heart when I am participating in guilting others or myself. Reading this chapter has made me aware of when I make others wrong and has inspired me to pursue a life without guilt. Let's dig deeper!

Real life application: The other day while at a four-way stop someone went out of queue and turned instead of me. I made a sound. You know those mouthy sounds that signify disgust, disappointment, disapproval. It was actually a really nice-appearing lady who smiled and waved in her mini-van, and  I felt sheepish for being so aggressive and took it down to, "Go ahead" (fake smile).

The key question here is, "Do I want to believe that someone is wrong if they go in front of me? Do I want to hold onto the rules of traffic and hand out my own WRONG-MOVE-BUDDY-tickets? I can tell you that it doesn't make me feel peaceful, joyful, or in the flow when I assign wrongdoing so....I"ll have to go with, "No, thank you."

This wrongdoing attitude definitely shows up in my laboratory home with my awakening-coach, Mr. Husband. Just before I sat down to write, he called to say, "You always leave the tank on "E" (empty) when I drive to soccer games on Sundays. You know I am going to be late if I have to stop at the filling station ( gas station)."

Me: "I didn't do it on purpose."

Another mouth sound, this time from him to me...CLICK.

Oh, fun! Now I get to be on the receiving end of blame and guilt. You know what, I quit this game!

But how?

My current notion is, give up my belief that anyone is guilty. Give up the belief that guilt is real.

The mind quickly goes to mass public shootings. It goes to an outward experience to disprove that letting go of guilt is safe or responsible. For me, I stay in the conflict in my life and begin there. I look to the ways I attack and defend myself.

My husband expressing his frustration towards me for leaving him without gas in the tank has typically been an experience of either feeling guilty myself, or deflecting, denying or discrediting his observation in my defense. I know that I did not maliciously intend to add six minutes on his travel time, but how should I behave when he seemingly accuses me?

A key to being able to release from guilt is the knowing that my essence is pure innocence, pure light. My human body and my personality are not my true SELF. I am safe and whole in my true SELF. My true SELF could never hurt anyone. My true SELF could neither be hurt by anyone. Can light punch someone in the face? Ha! This is the game changer, this awareness of who I really am and who you really are.

With innocence as my TRUTH, I know I need not defend mySELF. Now, my husband is not seen as attacking me, but bringing to my attention a way that I inconvenienced him. As a do-over, I could have said, "I can see why you would think that way. I will try to be more aware. Thank you for letting me know it bothers you. I apologize for inconveniencing you. I love you. Enjoy the game."

{CHEERING from the GODS}

And to the lady that pulled ahead out of queue?

What about, "I don't truly know if it was my turn." On the absolutist sense, I don't. What if her pulling out in front of me saved me from a car wreck, or a bird pooping on my car, or from something else? What do I really know about the order of the Universe?

Or, "I am grateful she is getting where she would like to go."

I could also say, "I am ONE with her. What I offer, I receive."

What if blaming, shaming, attacking and defending were not the knee-jerk reactions to life. What if we were to come from a place of innocence and learning, so that we can hear the ways other people are helping us to be more generous, more aware of how we affect them. What if you never made yourself or anyone else wrong? Think of the massive energy you would reclaim. Think of the lightness of your being.

Let's do this! Let's decide that it's over. Let's ask for help on how we can live in this new way!

I am with you!!!



*A Course in Miracles. Chapter 13, Section 1, paragraph 1, line 4.